MAKING FRIENDS - ONLINE
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If you want to make tons of online friends on forums, chatrooms, and other sites, it requires both caution and friendliness. If you're careful with how you act online and are also very friendly, you'll appear confident and secure and become friends with many people.
Steps
Find a website, chatroom, or forum that interests you. like u have founf FUNONTHENET.IN
See what the big topics are on that particular website and get into the topics. If you're into a particular topic, then talk about with others who are interested in that topic.
Once you show that you love what you're talking about and meet others who share your interests, then develop friendships with those other people.
Tips
E-mail those who share your interests to talk with them more often.
Start groups targeted to those who share your interests and become friends with the group members.
Be confident, secure, and just have FUN!!!!
Unless you're really sure of what you're doing, be literate. People who actually type out their words and sentences are liked much more on many chatrooms and forums. Typing "1ik3 7hi5" or "Not typng out ur wrds nd sentnces" is not only annoying, but can cause you to begin to think like that, and that is not a good mindset of how to type in.
Warnings
Do not reveal your age or any personal information unless u r sure abt that person
Do not trust anyone! Even extensive relationships that you have online can go sour when you realize the person you're communicating with is pretending to be someone they're not. It's okay to instill some trust in online friends, but don't make yourself vulnerable to attack.
Do not make plans to meet anyone you meet online unless and untill u know them and always take a company before u meet
Some-one must know whom u r going to meet. Take ur elders in confidence.
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Do you want to relax and be comfortable in a conversation? Do you end up feeling completely awkward instead? The art of conversation takes practice, but is not as hard as you might think. It will take some knowledge, practice, and patience, but you can learn to relax and enjoy a great conversation.
Steps
Forget yourself. Dale Carnegie once said, "It's much easier to become interested in others than it is to convince them to be interested in you." If you are too busy thinking about yourself, what you look like, or what the other person might be thinking, you will never be able to relax. Introduce yourself, shake hands, then forget yourself and focus on them instead.
Find out what the other person is interested in. You can even do some research in advance when you know you will have an opportunity to talk with a specific person. Complimenting them is a great place to start. Everyone likes sincere compliments, and that can be a great ice-breaker.
Ask questions. What do they like to do? What sort of things have they done in their life? What is happening to them now? What did they do today or last weekend? Identify things about them that you might be interested in hearing about, and politely ask questions. Remember, there was a reason that you wanted to talk to them, so obviously there was something about them that you found interesting.
Listen. This is the most important part of any conversation. You might think a conversation is all about talking, but it will not go anywhere if the listener is too busy thinking of something to say next. Pay attention to what is being said. When you listen attentively to the other person, injecting a thought or two, they will often not realize that it was they who did most of the talking, and you get the credit for being a good conversationalist - which of course, you are!
Practice active listening skills. Part of listening is letting the other person know that you are listening. Make eye contact. Nod. Say "Yes," "I see," "That's interesting," or something similar to give them clues that you are paying attention and not thinking about something else - such as what you are going to say next.
Ask clarifying questions. If the topic seems to be one they are interested in, ask them to clarify what they think or feel about it. If they are talking about an occupation or activity you do not understand, take the opportunity to learn from them. Everyone loves having a chance to teach another willing and interested person about their hobby or subject of expertise.
Paraphrase back what you have heard, using your own words. This seems like an easy skill to learn, but takes some practice to master.
Conversation happens in turns, each person taking a turn to listen and a turn to speak or to respond. It shows respect for the other person when you use your "speaking turn" to show you have been listening and not just to say something new. They then have a chance to correct your understanding, affirm it, or embellish on it.
Consider your response before disagreeing. If the point was not important, ignore it rather than risk appearing argumentative. If you consider it important then politely point out your difference of opinion. Do not disagree merely to set yourself apart, but remember these points:
It is the differences in people--and their conversation--that make them interesting.
Agreeing with everything can kill a conversation just as easily as disagreeing with everything.
A person is interesting when they are different from you; a person is obnoxious when they can not agree with anything you say, or if they use the point to make themselves appear superior.
Try to omit the word "but" from your conversation when disagreeing as this word often puts people on the defensive. Instead, try substituting the word "and", it has less of an antagonistic effect.
Consider playing devil's advocate - but do so carefully. If your conversation partner makes a point, you can keep the conversation going by bringing up the opposite point of view (introduce it with something like "I agree, but..."). If you overuse this technique, however, you could end up appearing disagreeable or even hostile.
Do not panic over lulls. This is a point where you could easily inject your thoughts into the discussion. If the topic seems to have run out, use the pause to think for a moment and identify another conversation topic or question to ask them. Did something they said remind you of something else you have heard, something that happened to you, or bring up a question or topic in your mind?
Mention it and you'll transition smoothly into further conversation!
Know when the conversation is over. Even the best conversations will eventually run out of steam or be ended by an interruption.
Shake hands with the other person and be sure to tell them you enjoyed talking with them. Ending on a positive note will leave a good impression and likely bring them back later for more!
Tips
Keep a mental list of conversation-starters and be prepared with some information to share:
- current events of local, national, or even international significance
- books
- music
- movies, television programs, or other entertainment
Before going to an event where you will be required to make conversation, read the day's news and brush-up on current entertainment news. This will provide some instant conversation subjects of current interest.
Talking about yourself might seem interesting to you, but to the other person it might get boring - especially if you seem to be giving them your life story. It may be interesting, but give the impression that you are self centered. Best to leave some information for a future conversation.
Think before you speak. You are less likely to regret things you have said if you take a moment to come up with a more polite way to say it.
Keep in mind what kind of relationship you have with the other person. Generally, conversations with a new acquaintance should be more general and not of a personal nature. There are also conversations that would be inappropriate to have with someone of the opposite sex. Take care not to discuss subjects (e.g. sexual topics) that may make you appear too forward or undignified. If you find yourself in a conversation with one or more strangers or new acquaintances and the topic turns to something that might make you or someone else there uncomfortable, you do not need to join in.
Look for a pause in the conversation and take the opportunity to change the subject or simply walk away.
If you believe it would be appropriate, take a respectful and tasteful approach, but take a chance and discuss what may be "taboo" subjects. Watch for cues to determine if the subject is welcome.
Some people would enjoy an open discussion of something that they might not otherwise talk about. If the subject seems to make the other person uncomfortable, simply drop it and move on without worry. This is part of navigating a conversation and does not have to signal an embarrassing end to it.
If possible, observe the person and his or her mode of speech beforehand. For example, you'll probably be speaking differently with a teenage girl than with a senior citizen. Also consider the situation.
Warnings
Choose carefully when asking personal questions. You do not want to venture into overly personal issues. Even if the other person might be willing to talk about it, you may end up learning things that you really do not want to know. You certainly do not want the other person to think afterward that you coerced them into revealing personal information.
Be sincere! Compliments are great, but too much flattery is obvious and will reveal you as being insincere.
Beware of topics that can be inflammatory - such as religion and politics - and don't venture into them unless you know the person has roughly the same convictions as you, or the circumstances otherwise allow for pleasant discussion. Again, it's fine to disagree and can be nice to talk about differences, but it can also be a quick step toward an argument.
Try not to argue! You do not have to agree with everything someone says, but you do not have to tell them all about how you disagree. If you feel the need to explain an opposing viewpoint, express it simply and without putting the other person on the defensive. It is better to simply change the subject in a casual conversation than to get involved in an argument.
Things You'll Need
Self-Confidence
Desire to understand and respect the other person
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You don't need to look like Brad Pitt or drive a Mercedes to sweep a girl off her feet. Those things, by themselves, will never work on a woman really worth courting. Here's how to let that special girl you've never talked to know that she's appreciated, without being creepy.
Steps
Find something about her that is truly special. Does she have anything about her that is unique? A subtle little quirk or feature that you find endearing, but that no one else seems to notice?
Let her know that you think she's special without expecting anything (a phone number, a date) in return. If there is something specific that you notice about her aside the common that probably everyone notices, i.e., "Wow, nice tan" or "Oh, you have pretty eyes." If this girl is really interesting to you, there should be something far from the common that you notice. Here are some examples:
"Hi, I don't mean to make you feel weird or anything, but you've just got the prettiest freckles I've ever seen."
"Excuse me, but I can't walk out of here without telling you that you have an amazing laugh."
She'll probably smile, say thank you, look away, and maybe even blush. Remember that even if ultimately, it doesn't work out, you've at least made her day by giving her a true compliment. However, if she's good looking, she probably gets several compliments a day, so offer her one that is as unique as you believe she may be, like mentioning something about her personality. Don't come across as needy. Unless you really have your life together, you'll just be one of those other guys.
Offer her your company, and walk away. That is, right before you leave, give her your phone number or screen name, or offer a time and a place to meet, and let her know that if she chooses not to take you up on your offer, you'll never bother her again. Don't give her a chance to accept or reject you. Make your offer and run. Give her a chance to think about it by herself, and wonder "Hmmm...I wonder what he's like." If you do this confidently, she'll feel compelled by her curiosity to get to know you better, and she won't feel like she's being pressured or chased. Also, the fact that she might never see you again will encourage her to follow up on any glimmer of hope she has about you being the guy of her dreams.
Don't look back. If she doesn't call or show up, leave her alone.
She's not interested. Don't take it personally. But if she DOES call you or meet with you, you've probably swept her off her feet! The rest depends on chemistry and compatibility. Good luck!
Tips
Here's an example of what you can say: "Hey, look, I've gotta go, but you seem like a really amazing person, and I'd like to get to know you better. Here's my number; call me and I'd love to take you out for a cup of coffee and talk. But if you're not interested, that's cool, too. I just didn't want to let this opportunity pass. Ok so just call me or something and here's my number again. " But don't say that you have to go if you really don't. It just makes you sound stupid.
For inspiration, watch the movie 'Office Space' and study the scene where the main character goes up to the waitress (Jennifer Aniston) and lets her know that he'll be at the restaurant next door.
The key is to make a woman feel special and appreciated, but there's a fine line between admiration and harassment. If you cross that subtle line and make her feel uncomfortable, you've ruined your chances of sweeping her off her feet.
If your intentions aren't genuine, and your words aren't honest, then even if you get the girl at first, it's bound to end in disappointment.
Steps 1 and 2 will probably sweep any woman off her feet, even if you've been married for 25 years.
Try to walk the line between a feel-good compliment and a cheesy pick up line. Be sincere about it, but don't go over the top.
Remember that all girls are different, and there's no one way to make any girl fall for you. For alternative takes on making a girl get butterflies in her stomach, check out the Related wikiHows below.
Warnings
One thing girls can't stand is when guys are fake. If a guy says, "I think you have really beautiful hair," and the girl is having a terrible hair day, the guy sounds fake and just plain stupid. You need to make the girl feel special but not sound fake!
Don't stare (no matter how beautiful you think she is). It's creepy and rude. Stick to occasional glances, and give a small smile and perhaps a wave if you happen to catch her eye.
Be honest. Girls can't stand it when someone (anyone, not just guys) lies to them. Don't be boastful about your achievements, too. Casually slip it in if you need to.
Do not talk to the girl you like about other girls, your recent bad date, your ex girlfriends. It does not make you seem more desirable and if you want to make her jealous like this, you will only succeed in making her think you do not like her or her feelings will fade.
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The almost goody-two-shoes-type of girl (Kind of like Sandy at the start of Grease) loves a guy who's sweet.Most guys have no idea how to act, smell or talk appropriately around girls they like. Is this you? Then read on!
Steps
Be nice. Not obsessively, like stalking her and offering to do things all the time. When she's carrying something heavy, offer to take it for her. When she's wondering about the homework, offer to help her. This is called Chivalry. Use it - it makes girls feel special and highlights your masculinity. You'll look like a nice guy, and girls tend to be more impressed by nice guys.
Smell good. Body odor is not good. Shower, and if you want, apply some scent. Use only a little. You want her to wonder what that wonderful smell is, not feel like she's getting hit over the head with it.
Look at the way you talk.
Guys who swear and cuss loudly are not impressive. It makes you look immature, like a boy trying to look tough. Sound intelligent every once in a while, but don't be afraid to joke sometimes. A deep voice is great, especially when you're on the phone - practice!
Don't be arrogant, but be confident.
Confidence is great with girls, and if you mix in some humor you'll have a winning combination. Slow down. This will help in three ways. Firstly, it makes you appear more confident. Secondly, it means you don't have to repeat things, which make you feel stupid. Thirdly, the conversation lasts longer!
Shave. Bristles are not good. Take care of your skin. It makes you look clean. Anti-acne treatments are available, but don't use too many. Using too many treatments stop working after a while, and they usually end up drying your face anyway if you don't moisturize properly.
Check your breath! I don't mean chew gum all the time. Gum can actually sometimes make breath worse, because of that really gross smell your stomach sends up when it's expecting food. Mints are okay, so is breath spray.
Do well in school. The majority of girls asked said they preferred guys who did well in school, rather than guys who didn't. Don't talk about it though. It's best if she finds out off her own back.
You don't have to be a total goody-two-shoes, but don't be a tough-guy either. Most school guys who do try to look tough end up looking like amateurs. Besides, girls love sweet guys, but not wusses - this is a fine line.
But remember, masculinity is still good. The way you walk and talk can make you look more masculine.
Tips
Pretty much everything is covered there. But not all girls are the same. Each have different tastes. So while your sweet girl may be crazy about guys with good grades, she might not mind that little bit of bristle you've got there. It varies.
Sports make you look good. As long as you don't look too obsessive, this brings you up a notch on the masculinity scale.
This guide is not for sex, it is for proper relationships! FOR that we have MATURE section naaa >:D
Warnings
Try too hard and you'll end up looking like a wuss.
Do not overdo the cologne.
This only works on the nice girls. If you're trying to get a tough-girl to like you, take someone else's advice.
Don't change who you are. If you end up becoming a totally different person, you will not be happy.
Rough breakups occur when one person is faking something (interests/personality) and eventually they can't hold up the sham any longer.
Shave well; don't look like you do not care.
If you have acne, get medicine to treat it.
Don't try too hard to lower your voice. It will sound very fake and off-putting.
Things You'll Need
A good attitude, with confidence and humour.
Manners.
Good grades.
A crush.
Showering essentials.
To smell good.
Tips from a friend, who's a girl. (best in Indian context)
A good smile
<.>=vicky =<.>:
It's simple to figure out what a girl wants, you just need a few tips.
Steps
Girls like it when you make them feel special, and they like it when you're forward but not in a creepy way. Say "I like your shoes." Keep it short when you're passing them in the hall. If she smiles and looks you in the eye then at her feet you got her hooked.
Girls love it when you can't take your eyes off them, but don't stare if there's nothing to stare at.
When you're having a conversation don't keep talking about something unimportant. When she's by you and so are your friends don't act any different, GIRLS DONT LIKE FAKE GUYS!
Don't make fun of people around them and that goes for bullying too.
If you absolutely know she likes you, come up from behind her and put your hand in hers discretely, without other people noticing.
Tips
Be yourself.
Don't embarrass her, you will lose her forever if you do.
Also, if you are under fourteen, as in 12 or 13, don't go too heavy on the Axe. From the standpoint of a girl, if a guy is drenched, I tend to stay away.
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