In The Newsroom. I came across the news article titled Girl kills self after poor board result
A lil girl, ending her budding life just because she could not prove herself in the Board Examinations!
May is the month of 'Results' and sadly…suicide stories by students who could not perform as per their expectations are splashed in almost all the dailies on a regular basis.
Not just exam results', going by the current trends, even a slight provocation is enough to push some individual to the edge.
Just last week, The Maximum City MUMBAI reported not one, not two, but a staggering 7 Cases of suicide in 24 HOURS!
And surprisingly, its not just some depressed teenagers who take this step… If we go through the report, the facts are startling :
Here is an excerpt from the news article, Seven suicides in 24 hrs which appeared on the Times of India dated 16th May 07
So you can see…the people who took this step range from a Mentally Challenged Patient to an Engineering Student ! From a domestic help to a DOCTOR in Sion Hospital !!
Now, what makes these people take such a drastic step?
Do these people even think what their parents and siblings may go through once they commit such a step? Do they ever imagine that although they might get rid of worldly challenges… but what about their parents whose life would henceforth be a living hell?
Almost all the religions disapprove the concept of Suicide :
Coming back to the main topic, school kids contemplating suicide just because they could not perform as per the expectations of their peers.
Youngsters also seem to be suffering from the loss of confidence.
The affected individual feels unimportant, emotionally bruised and uncared for. And that's when this individual acts upon the warning.
The suicidal feeling can subside with care, communication and concern.
For this purpose, family can act as the BEST counselors.
Someone under huge pressure to perform is hardly thinking about religion.
Family/parents. The person contemplating suicide for the above reasons are hardly going to confide in their family/parents either.
The reason WHY many youngsters feel suicide may be their only option is BECAUSE of their parents and the huge pressure that some parents put their children under to live up to their expectations...
The pressure PARENTS put their children under to live out the dreams NOT of their child, but their own.
The pressure parents put their children under to hopefully get their PARENTS out of poverty and bring in more money...For them: Not the child.
Offspring are not always able to live up to those expectations, nor may they wish too...
It ISNT failure on the part of the child for not passing exams that PARENTS think they should...Even though in many cases, those same pushy parents weren't capable of passing themselves!
The child may have no intention of being a doctor, teacher, solicitor or whatever career the parents have chosen, have absolutely no interest in that chosen course OR even have the academic ability to pass that particular course.
When under that kind of pressure, the parents will be the LAST people they will turn too to confide in as is THEM that have put this huge burden on the shoulders of that person in the first place.
It should not be your children,s responsibility to live the dreams that you failed to achieve or to pay your debts and get you out of the poverty you may have been in before you decided to bring that child into the world.
The child is an individual. They are not YOU. May not want what you want for them, may NOT be able to perform or live up to the expectations you may have of them.
They should not be made to feel a failure because of this. Its the PARENTS fault in the first place that this happens. Those parents who want to boast to their friends that their child got higher marks than everybody else...
Those same parents who will be waiting with their hands open wide to reap the financial rewards that the CHILD has achieved.
The child should not be under such huge pressure from those very people who are meant to support them and love them, no matter what they choose or don't choose, to do with their OWN LIVES...
In cases such as the above, the only failures...ARE THE PARENTS. NOT the poor child who felt so pressured to perform something they may not even have been academically able too, so the only option they felt they had left was to end their lives because of the consequences they may face from those parents when they fail their exams...
Children should not be expected to fulfil parents unfulfilled dreams. Let them have their own.
You ask the question: "Do they not think what they put the parents through" what it SHOULD be is this:
Do the parents not think what they have put their children through that has led them to take such drastic measures as deciding to end their lives...rather than face them after failing to achieve what they expected of them.